If spotting a cheating man was easy, countless women would save themselves a lot of stress, hurt, and heartbreak. Whether you’ve been cheated on before, you have a clue your man is cheating now, or you want to make sure you choose the right partner for a cheating-free future, there are some characteristics of a cheating man that you can watch out for.
You’ll never be 100% sure if someone is a cheater without catching them in the act. That’s why you should hire private investigator services for infidelity. These professionals will help you determine whether your partner is cheating or not.
In addition, here are some red flags that mean run, run, run. Remember to trust your instincts – you have them for a reason.
Characteristic #1: The Flirt
When you first met your man – how did you connect? Did he flirt with you at a bar, restaurant or party? Did he pursue you, say everything right, and attract you with his dazzling smile?
While his flirting may have been what caught your eye, it might be a play that’s caught many other women’s eyes, too. Beware of the effortless flirt. If it’s that easy for him, he might just have a lot of practice and be unable to help himself, even if he’s in a relationship.
Characteristic #2: The Liar
Caught your man in a white lie? All cheaters are also liars. Remember that. It can be easy to dismiss small lies as no big deal, but they could be big. If he’s willing and able to lie convincingly about something as small as where he was one night or who he was with, he probably doesn’t respect you enough or care if you trust him.
In this case, it’s easy for him to leap to cheating on you – and then lying about it.
Character #3: The Compartmentalizer
Sometimes, we’re forced to classify to a degree to move on in life. You might have to put your home problems aside to focus on your job. However, for most of us, this is a very difficult thing to do.
Men who cheat are usually quite good at compartmentalizing. They can cheat and then store away their guilt so it doesn’t consume them or affect them in any way.
Characteristic #4: The Narcissist
Men with narcissistic traits believe everything and everyone in their lives is about them. Women are there to please them. You serve a purpose, and you can easily be discarded like garbage.
While many men with narcissistic traits are good at hiding it, especially in public when they need to fake it, pay close attention to the way your man treats you in private. Do you feel like he respects you and cares about you? Is he interested in you? Does he want to make you happy, or is everything always about their happiness and needs?
If he’s a narcissist, then he will use you and any other woman he wants for sex without guilt or remorse. This makes him a likely candidate to be a serial cheater.
Characteristic #5: The Gaslighter
Has your man ever told you you’re crazy? Many cheaters gaslight their partners to manipulate them and the conversation if they feel cornered. They try to take the pressure and attention off their sins by throwing them back on you. For example, if you catch him in a lie, he’ll make you feel like you misheard, misremembered, or are just confused or crazy.
The sooner you realize you’re being gaslit, the sooner you’ll realize there are red flags to investigate, like cheating. And the faster you can get away. So the next time you feel like you’re going crazy after a conversation with your man, consider the facts you know to be true and keep drilling until you get to the truth because gaslighting is a characteristic of a cheating man.
Characteristic #6: The Serial Cheater
This one should seem obvious, but many women have rose-coloured glasses around men, especially when they’re in love. Think about it: Did your man cheat on his previous partner with you before you got together? If so, he’ll probably do it again to you.
Has your long-term partner cheated on you before? Well, we hate to tell you he’ll probably do it again.
The serial cheater has a wandering eye and is not content in a monogamous relationship for long. As the saying goes, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Characteristic #7: The Private Partner
A cheater needs a certain level of privacy to commit his acts. He needs to meet other women somewhere. He likely has ongoing conversations with them. He needs to meet them in person at some point.
If your partner is a very private person or suddenly becomes private to the point of paranoia, it’s a red flag. In this case, the weird behaviour to look out for would be a man who hides his phone, walks away from phone calls, changes his social media account passwords, and suddenly leaves home at night or overnight more than usual.
